Disturbed

If you're a reader of the blog that I'm writing about in this post, you will know what I'm talking about. If not, too bad.

I've been following this blog quite frequently since a year ago I think. I think that the author is quite beautiful and had a very nice character, not that I know her anyway, just an impression. Then the author came along and wrote a very long post on a topic bout how come non beautiful looking people get to date beautiful people etc.

I read the post in a very non judgmental way and I have to say, I don't really agree with what the author wrote. However, it was until I read a paragraph in the post that made me felt disturbed. Somewhat repulsed. And the following paragraph is what I got so stirred up about.

"So in my opinion ugly people should only date ugly people. In that way the beauty of nature will not be disrupted. What’s already ugly stays ugly (aiya we can’t do much about it la. Lost cause already. How the hell do you undo pollution, for example? You just preserve more forest, etc etc), and we save the beautiful (well, beauty might be arguably subjective, but ugliness is mostly not). Think pedigree. If you have a champion bloodline Siberian Husky, would you stupidly go and mate it with some shit ass looking mongrel? (Unless the mongrel pays you shitloads of money, which again reinforces the fact that human is so driven by money.)"

So now humans are compared to dogs? If humans were to be compared to dogs, here's a thought for you. How come pure breeds among dogs are so valuable but mixed breed of humans are worth more than pure breed? (Someone with mixed blood of Chinese and Europeans are consider more attractive than someone who's pure Chinese). Anyway, that's not the point here.

So coz of that post, many readers left comments agreeing with her, which was a surprise to me. But then when you post something so controversial, hate comments are bound to flow in as well. The author deleted some harsh ones I suppose, but there are still a few left. Amongst them were a few comments calling the author ugly, which was stupid and plain childish coz the author is if anything not ugly. I can't help to look down on people who call other people ugly just coz they have an opinion different from yours. There are however, a few very logical comments too.

The author then posted another post of apology, but a sarcastic one. I thought that wasn't needed at all, but I get it coz it feels unfair when people say mean stuff to you just because they don't get your sense of humor/sarcasm. I didn't like what the author wrote, but I get it. For the apology post, in it there were 2 comments from the readers which attracted me. The below 2 are the comments.

"I really enjoy reading your blog, but this issue has saddened me a lot.

Beauty should not be seen as something physical, but more of something which a person posses in their general aura. I won’t try to sound too flower child about this issue but I think you were really insensitive to a lot of people.

As a person with many readers, instead of sounding so vain and ignorant why not support other people and try to make them feel more beautiful? You ARE beautiful on the outside, but even you posses some ugliness on the inside, these last few posts have really shown it.

I won’t stop reading your blog, as it’s got some really good things to read about. But this has just made me and I’m pretty sure a lot of other readers question our general opinion of you.

While yes I agree with you, and I do think the first thing a person notices in another person is their looks. And only naturally do people go for the most attractive person in a group, but what you wrote was really lowering to people’s self esteem.

As well as the comment about children, I thought it was just terribly disrespectful. Would you ever say that to your mother of father? Or your brother’/sister’s baby? You love someone for them, their looks and flaws and all.

It left me wondering with the question, if you consider yourself so beautiful then who will ever be good enough for you?

Good luck."

"i had been following ur blog for 2 years and it struck me pretty hard.its not about whether youre pretty or not, and dont say we terasa cos we think we are ugly. i dont think im ugly, but its offensive and rather insulting like “mommy dont care how you will look like so i fucked your daddy” or something along that line. do u actually think people thought of that when conceiving? =.=” so if you managed to marry a supergoodlooking man but ur baby turned out ugly youre not gonna love him/her?

seriously, it reflects how immature you actually are. nobody ever set a rule saying ugly people should marry ugly people and viceversa. why must you keep ur mind narrowed to that extent? so just bcs people say youre ugly now u wanna get ugly partner?"

Anyway, I get the author was just being sarcastic, but I have to admit, it went way overboard. It even changed my impression towards the author, as if it matters in the first place. This post was not written to gain traffic as the author is one of Malaysia's top celebrity blogger, so no names are mentioned. This post is plain IMO.